Sharon McErlane asked the Grandmothers: “Teach me about the real power in women.” The Grandmothers answered, “It is something staggering. Feminine energy is serious business.” Shaking their heads, they said “It is not as you on Earth think about it: subservient, coquettish and manipulative. It is none of these.” They shouted that out with disapproval in their voice. “It is an enormous power of dignity.” Through the royal way that they carried themselves, I saw what they felt while saying this. … “You can still have fun, joy is still allowed. It’s about having dignity, always dignity, even in playful situations. Dignity is related to the holiness of the being that you are. … Never forget this, never! That is who you are.” – The Grandmothers via Sharon McErlane in A Call to Power, around p. 90
(see my post on dignity, Sept. 29, 2013)
The Grandmothers say that yin energy is “an enormous power of dignity”. After writing that post about dignity, I realized I had no idea what the Grandmothers actually meant by dignity. I asked them to explain it to me personally. What makes a person dignified? How can we recognize the state of dignity in ourselves?
They first said the word “alignment” – as in aligning the spine, standing up straight as they mention several times in their books. But this is not just about the physical spine; it is also about aligning oneself in a spiritual way. Having word and deed, and energy and intention, match up in the very core of who we are. Being out of alignment (out of integrity) is a symptom of having lost touch with the truth of who we are.
Then came the word “unhurried”. Dignified people never hurry. This is also related to being aligned. Hurrying is a kind of off-centeredness, rushing to keep up with yourself or someone else. Hurrying is related to fear – fear of being left behind, fear of being criticized for being late, fear of various things. Dignified people set their own pace; they expect everyone else adjust to them because they don’t spend any energy worrying about what other people think. They are the pace-setters, they are the ones to be followed. If people choose not to follow them, they lose no sleep over it.
“Poised” and “centered” are concepts related to both “aligned” and “unhurried”. Each of these evokes the picture of someone standing tall, quietly aligned over his or her spinal column and center of gravity. This dignified posture evokes a sense of simultaneously being at peace and possessing great power.
“Presence” is another word related to dignity. Presence is related to “charisma”. These have to do with being bigger than your own skin, filling a space with your energy, simply because you walk into the room. This is about knowing that you are bigger than your ego – knowing who you truly are and tapping into the universal energy available to all of us.
“Power” comes in here somewhere. Dignified people – even those without a penny to their name – have known power on a cellular level. Sometimes that comes from their station in life (being born into royalty or a monied family with great influence) and sometimes that simply comes from an inner knowing of their own worth and power.
“Unafraid” is related to unhurried. Dignified people do not get thrown off course by small fears; they stay aligned over their physical and spiritual center and let the storm blow past them, unfased. They do not fear, because they possess an inner knowing that they are bigger than, and more powerful than, anything that the world can throw at them. If they do have any fears, they do not let the fear get the upper hand – and they never show their fear in public.
“Aware” has to do with how a dignifed person views those around him/her, and how he/she views the world at large. Dignified people are often used to seeing the bigger picture and making strategic decisions. Not all dignified people are leaders, but many of them are. They tend to command – and expect – respect, simply because they are who they are.
After getting this intuitive information first, I then looked up the definition and etymology of dignity.
(The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved),
this is the definition of dignity:
1. The quality or state of being worthy of esteem or respect.
2. Inherent nobility and worth: the dignity of honest labor.
a. Poise and self-respect.
b. Stateliness and formality in manner and appearance.
4. The respect and honor associated with an important position.
5. A high office or rank.
6. dignities The ceremonial symbols and observances attached to high office.
7. Archaic A dignitary.
[Middle English dignite, from Old French, from Latin dignits, from dignus, worthy; see dek- in Indo-European roots.]
The etymology of dignity comes from the Latin word for “worthy”.
The Grandmothers have told us that by aligning ourselves with them and receiving our correct portion of yin-energy, we will become dignified. Feminine power is an enormous power of dignity. Amen!
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